Those who tell you that there have never been any quarrels or scandals in their relationship, or deceit, or simply never lived together. Everyone else is very clear on the phrase “relationship crisis”.
When the period of courtship is replaced by the decision to live together, when you share a dream, breakfast and a common budget every day, it is time to enjoy the long-awaited happiness. But most often, it is during this period, the couple faces the first crisis of relationships, which not everyone can overcome. According to statistics, just in the first year of life together most couples fall apart, and the crisis of the first year is not the only one in family life. So how to overcome disagreements, restore mutual understanding and sensitivity in relationships?
Accept reality as it is
The very first and sometimes not the easiest step is to realize that there is a problem. We often idealize the partner, especially at the beginning of the relationship, and carry his image as a banner ahead of us. However, your companion is a living person, who reveals himself gradually in the relationship, and you learn new facets of his personality. If at the beginning of the relationship, under the influence of strong feelings, passion and certain hormones, which play a major role in the formation of love, we have closed our eyes on many things or just have not seen, today your life together may look a little different.
You may be dissatisfied with his behavior, his attitude towards your hobbies, statements about you, and simply that his opinion is different from yours in many ways. However, it is important to remember that this is still the same person that you once met and loved, that this is a stage of learning about each other and as before is unlikely to be.
“It is not your fault, it is our common problem”
Most quarrels are built on the principle, “Who’s to blame?” In this case, we shift the goal from resolving the conflict and finding a way out of it to assigning guilt to one of the couples. And even if the guilt of the other is fully proven, and you are sure of your right, ask yourself: “What difference does it make?” Does it make your relationship stronger and better? After all, nothing but the formation of guilt and hidden aggression in your partner this method can not be achieved. The relationship is built by two and both involved in what is happening, despite the fact that, at first glance, it may seem that you are not involved.